For individuals with PDA some demands or requests can be overwhelming, and they will often go to extreme lengths to avoid complying with demands. This might mean avoiding instructions or demands from others, or even avoiding their favourite activities and hobbies once they become a demand.
External: a request or demand from someone such as a colleague or boss.
Internal: a deadline you have set yourself
Explicit: a direct demand for an action or responses
Implicit: a polite, indirect request or an unsaid expectation.
The PDA Society have identified key features of PDA.
Some social strategies that are used might be excuses – “I can’t do it today, I’m too tired,” delays – “I’ll do it in 10 minutes” or distracting and changing the conversation. They might like to share long stories or talk for extended periods to avoid the focus on themselves and accountability. To best support someone with PDA it is important to acknowledge the anxiety behind the behaviours and take steps to reduce stresses such as emotional stress, sensory input, and fear of uncertainty/change.